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Monday, 15 October 2012


So ever since I can remember, I've always thought that I have to be patient because God has "One" person for me and even though I am definitely not sure when, where or how I will meet that person, I have found myself in countless situations calculating the odds of someone being "the one". I think my expectations from my partner have grown so high that when I see the good side of someone, I immediately put him on a high pedestal and begin to think that maybe he's "the one" and we might end up being together and even sometimes end up having relationships with the person in my head lol... craaaaaaaazzzzzzzzzzzzzzyyyyyyy!. I know right?  Then when I find myself thinking of the person and considering how it will be like when we have to date and other stuff, I end up reconsidering the idea.

Anyway, the long and short of the story is that I came across a video once again about "How do you know someone is the one"

Jefferson Bethke explains it a little more here.
He clarifies that there is no such thing as "The One" because we end up putting too much pressure on the other person to be perfect when we should be putting Christ first and learning to show love, grace, mercy and forgiveness to the other person plus holding people in high standards might cause us to miss the good, godly people surrounding us.

In a nutshell, WE ARE FREE TO CHOOSE WHO WE WANT and it is important to be transparent in the process and trust God to enable us to make the right choice.
Ps: We still need to exercise patience because God always knows Best!


  1. very interesting!!!

  2. I used to be just like you, thinking every guy could possibly be the one, but I threw all that out of the window and just prayed for God to send me someone serious and that has similar beliefs and future goals as I. The young and naive me learned quickly that everyone that claims to know and love Christ, doesn't. Before I knew it I met this guy, we became friends, he's my first boyfriend and now fiance. Is he the one for me, yes. And I kinda knew from the start. Everyone's story and path to meeting the 'one' is different however, they should be someone that knows and has the same goals as you, living your life to get to eternal salvation! Great Post!!!

    1. I agree with Ag, everyone also have different opinion about whether there is 'the one' but I believe that when we start focusing on been the one, we are less critical of the person God might send into our lives. Becoming the one takes patient, so we have to be patient with others so that they can be our one.

  3. agreed with this! good post :)

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  4. Totally agree on this. The problem with searching for THE ONE is that you end up alone, because THE ONE did not meet your expectations. And most people fall in love with the wrong person that is the opposite of THE ONE, but you can't control the heart :-)

  5. I still believe in the all god has someone special for me :) haha x

  6. Interesting thoughts in your post. Thanks for sharing.

  7. thanks for your nice are really nice baby

  8. Your last statement is soooooo true! We have to be patient and I can honestly admit I struggle with that myself, but God is such a force in my life and without him I would truly be lost. Great post!

  9. Omg. This post. YES!!!! I completely identify and agree. There was some great advice here..

    Confessions Of A City Girl

  10. wow, what a video! really thought provoking!

    i have also been guilty of the same 'crazy' thoughts that you have had lol! it sometimes can't be helped, we are human after all ;¬)

    however if we can focus on being complete wholesome people, the right guy/girl will naturally be drawn to us, hence will we be able to choose anyone we want x

  11. i always believe that the one will come by himself! love always comes in an unexpected place. agree with you xx

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  12. you are really sweet. very nice comment baby

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  14. A beautiful post. God is good for he already send me the one for me. I am blessed indeed ! Thank you for the visiting my blog and the sweet thoughts.


  15. WOW!! so true its like you are challenging my thoughts with this post
    love it.

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