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Tuesday, 28 August 2012

Finding oneself- confidence

1."God has not called us to look down on ourselves"

2."God personally forms and shapes us for a purpose and that purpose is for the Potter's Glory"

I was speaking to my friend today and the topic of "Confidence" popped up. She told me about the fact that she felt confident the previous year but all of a sudden, she seemed to have lost it all.
I remembered the time in high school when we used to talk about this issue and I figured that this hadn't been dealt with properly by both of us even up until now (i.e. about 6years later).

I asked her about this and posed the question "How long is it going to take for you to be confident in yourself? Is it when you are 50 or maybe  80years? This made me realise that the more we dwell on the issue of not being confident, the more we spend our lives not really going for what we want.

Our perception of ourselves is projected out whether we like it or not and this causes others to either respond in a negative or positive way towards us and in turn, our own spirits are either lifted or dampened.



"Clay sculpture...representing me, i'm in a fetal position, small and alone, crying and completely self-focused, feeling rejected, this is what it looks like for me when i've allowed myself to be consumed by all my insecurities, fears, & hurts."


God has not called us to look down on ourselves; His creation.

He said to Joshua, "Be strong and courageous" when He chose him to lead the people of Israel after the death of Moses, their leader. God repeated this several times and we should be aware that each time a particular verse is repeated, it suggests its importance and thus should be taken note of.

Fear is the consequence of a lie. The same applies to having a low self esteem. We have been told that we are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God (Psalm 139:14) so listening to any other voice contrary to this makes us wonder, whose voice are we listening to? Are we paying attention to the lie we have told ourselves constantly or the truth that God has clearly spoken about our identities.

"My sheep hear my voice and I know them and they follow me" (John 10:27). Do you know the voice of the one who has spoken truthfully about you, and do you know what He has said?

Let us find our identities in God and always remember that He has called us His own and has made us in His image and likeness regardless of our "flaws" (Genesis 1:27).

It is important that when we find ourselves losing confidence, we remember that we have been fearfully and wonderfully made. Even if it doesn't seem real, meditate upon it until it becomes a part of you. Let it be like a silent prayer in your head at all times and remember you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. (Philipians 4:13)

Let us not try to find ourselves in achievements, aquisitions (i.e. material things), relationships, appearance or any other thing that might temporarily fill that Gap. Only God can fill it. Find the truth in His word and walk in that Truth daily.


"This is my second clay sculpture...representing me, i'm part of a friendly clay coffee mug that is meant for daily use to be filled up and poured out in relationship, i've got my arms outstretched looking outward ready to dive deep, it's no longer all about me and i'm standing with courage knowing & trusting that the Potter is the one who will take the mug in his hands to use as He desires. Here Am I Lord, Send Me. Have Your Way."

"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path" (Psalm 119:105)

What issue of confidence have you had and how have you dealt with it? Care to share!

Monday, 27 August 2012

7 THINGS I'M THANKFUL FOR

"Focusing on gratitude unleashes the love that lives within"- Gabrielle Bernstein


Lately, I've figured that I have mainly focused on negative things which I've felt have happened to me and to be honest it has become an energy drainer. So I came across MISSLARA's blog update on "11 things I'm thankful for" and I thought "why not do the same?"...I wanted to put up 10 things I'm thankful for but 7 just popped up in my head so I figured I'd put them on here and build up on it in my next posts. Let's see how watchful I'll be in the next few days to notice the good things going on as well and truly appreciate them.

Colossians 3:15 "And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in onebody; and be ye thankful"

1. Family (Dad, mum, siblings, cousins etc)

2. Friends

3. Graduating from university- (The opportunity to go to university and graduate; I learnt quite a lot whilest I was there and would definitely recommend it to anyone)

4. Life

5. Experiences-  The good and the bad- They've made me better

6. Opportunities- They give me a chance to explore (realise) my potentials and develop

7. Laughter- Brings instant joy and happiness

So what are you guys thankful for? Care to share!!!

Thursday, 23 August 2012

MY QUIET TIME WITH GOD

So I just commented on FunTo's post on "Read the bible...Part of a check-list? and I figured I'd take my own advice so I thought I'd share with you guys...


"I admit sometimes my quiet time becomes a "to do" list in my head which I have to tick and I feel guilty when its not done so I've found myself sometimes doing it just for the sake of it. But I realise that the moment I take my time, relax and just enjoy reading and praying, it becomes more of a genuine way to spend time with God. So I guess all I'm saying is, just make time for God in your relationship. It might take some time to set up a specific time but God is always there and we just have to enjoy being in His presence and not make it seem a duty.. (wow I think I'll take my own advice lol)"

So yh, do you guys ever feel that way sometimes and how have you gone about dealing with it?

Wednesday, 22 August 2012

How To Walk In High Heels

"One of the keys to walking in heels is a good, strong, solid posture"


Ok so I came across misssunshinesparkle's post on "How to walk in high heels" and Ithought I'd share. A few weeks back, I was speaking to my sister about the fact that I thought high heels were beautiful yet didn't prefer them. And this is all because of the fact that they usually are uncomfortable to wear, thus if you are not an expert at them.

Sometimes I see the most beautiful shoes in shops but then I find myself not even bothering to try them on because of the fact that I've experienced pain with this "species" of shoes several times and I think at some point I just got fed up with feeling the "pain" so I thought I'd give them up.

So here's the deal, she writes about this novel "walking in high heels" and as the name suggests, it's about "heels" + other girly stuff like wearing perfumes....so I thought maybe I'll buy myself one and see a few things I could learn from it. Besides, girly books/ movies/ music or anything girly in fact is always fun so why not....just saying :-)


Would love to know your thoughts on shoes... Are you a "heel" or a "flat" person

Tuesday, 21 August 2012

Your Identity Shapes Me Too

So I was just watching this video and it made me think of the effect that the people surrounding us (i.e. parents, friends, acquintances e.t.c) have on us. So I thought I'd share it.

Be careful of the people you surround yourself with & listen to. They all nurture a behaviour in you.
Would you like the positive ones to grow or the negative? It's definitely your choice!!!!!!

Monday, 20 August 2012

The Proposal- The Last supper

THE CONSEQUENCE OF A LIE

"Avoid fear for it is the consequence of every lie"

God Is Not An elephant

A few weeks back I wrote about forgiveness in marriage. I just found myself a second ago contemplating the idea of not forgiving someone because this particular person doesn't seem to get the idea that what they are doing is basically offensive and so I've found myself giving them so many excuses as to why they offend me... Just now I got fed up and was thinking of not letting go but then I came across this video which I had watched a while back and it reminded me of the truth behind forgiveness. So I figured I'd share it. stay blessed!!

"Don't be like  achained beautiful dogm do yourself a favour and forgive".... Pastor Funmi Alawale