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Tuesday, 25 December 2012

The virtous woman in Action - Accessories by Abiye

I did a mini study on proverbs 31 a few months back and jotted some points down on the characteristics of this woman.
vs 10 "Who can find a virtous woman? for her price is far above rubies

There were a lot of lessons I learnt from it but the one I've chosen to elaborate on is the virtuous woman's business skills.

Vs 16 "She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard" 

lessons
  • She envisions the long term benefits of her decisions
  • Her efforts and industry adds to the family income
  • She has business skills to buy and sell
  • She plans ahead for what she needs in order to accomplish her responsibilities 

Here is a quote from our fellow Nigerian who has recently set up an online store "ACCESSORIES BY ABIYE" in a bid to become the proverbs 31 woman. I call it the virtuous woman in action.

"In my attempt to become a Proverbs 31 woman, I started making fashion accessories for myself and friends."- Abiye Dede


It's always an inspiration when we come across a fellow sister who's making an "effort". Feel free to check out the links to her websites below. 
Accessories by Abiye
facebook fan page 

Here are some of her accessories which she makes from beautiful ANKARA prints
 Ankara African print Hairband (matching items available)







I hope y'all are having a brilliant christmas so far... God bless.





Monday, 24 December 2012

HAVE A MERRY CHRISTMAS

It's been a while since I've done a post on here. I hope everyone has been doing well so far. It's officially 6 days to the end of the year and the reason for the season has finally arrived; the birth of Jesus our Saviour.

Let's all enjoy every minute of the day as we reminisce on the wonderful things God has done so greatly in our lives during the year. So to set it off, here are a list of a few things I'd like to bless God for this year in a bid to follow my own advice on having an attitude of gratitude to God at all times

A little thanksgiving prayer- Counting my blessings one by one
Lord we rejoice in the thought that you care for us deeply and genuinely each day and you have brought us thus far.
Thank you for the gift of life and meeting our every need.
Thank you for favour and divine blessings.
Thank you for seeing us through every struggle this year.
Thank you for our families and the joys you have restored in our lives.
Thank you for our jobs and finances
Thank you for the lessons you have taught us this year through our experiences.
Thank you for strength and health.
Thank you for friends.
Thank you for all you've done and will continue to do in Jesus Name Amen!!!
 
Merry christmas everyone- Feliz Navidad a todos.
I hope you enjoy every minute of today with the people God has surrounded you with.

Hablaremos mas tarde- talk to you later
Adios- goodbye

Wednesday, 28 November 2012

AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

A week ago, I visited my sister and a friend after going to town to sort out a couple of things. The previous day, I had been reading a book on starting a new business. One of the topics in the book talked about facing one's fears and so the book requested that we list the things that we are afraid of and what we thought would happen if we attempted them. I listed quite a few and put up the positive things that could happen if I decided to take a chance on them. The following morning, I realised that for some reason I was getting a bit unhappy with my circumstance. I was getting worried about the things I was looking forward to and didn't seem to be happening. I felt a tad bit sad and I think I shed a few tears when some results I was waiting for returned and they weren't the ones I was hoping for. Mind you, they were the wrong results which I was given ( I found out the following day) but because worry had overshadowed me, it added salt to injury.

So I decided to go and see my friend and sister and when I got there, we were having random conversations and the topic of "worrying" popped up. My sister stated that she had noticed that I had lost weight and my friend commented on the fact that I looked worried and asked if I was worrying too much. She spoke about the things that she had gone through at certain points in her life and how she had tried to keep her head held high and have the right attitude in those circumstances

Today, I watched one of Creflo dollars' messages entitiled "The attitude of affection" and he placed an emphasis on the fact that as Christians we need to have the right attitude towards God in every circumstance. That our attitude in life determines our altitude (i.e. how high we go).One phrase that stuck out to me was "You will arrive at the place of your attitude". This was evident in my case when I began to worry because, I forgot about all the brilliant things occurring in my life for a second and decided to direct my focus on those that had not happened as well as worry about the "potential wrongs" that could happen essentially causing me to be overwhelmed and depressed.

The other few things I learnt were that 
1. My attitude determines whether things will work out
2. With an attitude of Gratitude, I should serve God
3. My position of affection towards God will determine my success in everything I do in line with God's word

To emphasise on no. 2, I'm gradually learning that my service to God does not only include me working for God in church but also the way I react in various circumstances.
So e.g. If I find that I have no money and I continuously murmur and complain about it, that is indirectly a "disservice" to God. In exodus 15 and 16, the Israelites had been set free from captivity in Egypt and God had provided so much for them yet when they wanted something else and had not received it, they murmured against Moses and essentially against God and God heard these murmurings.

Numbers 11:1
"And when the people complained, it displeased the Lord: and the Lord heard it and his anger was kindled; and the fire of the Lord burnt among them and consumed them that were in uttermost parts of the camp"

From this verse, it is clear that God is not cool with murmurings and complains. Therefore it is important that we have the right attitude towards Him in all circumstances and that our position in those circumstances include being APPRECIATIVE, GRATEFUL, THANKFUL and HONOURABLE as in the end these will create a FRUITFUL disposition. But a contrary attitude will cause us to serve LACK as written in Deuteronomy 28:47

"Because thou servedst not the Lord thy God with joyfulness, and with gladness of heart, for the abundance of all things; Therefore shalt thou serve thine enemies which the Lord shall send against thee, in hunger, and in thirst, and in nakedness, and in want of all things: and he shall put a yoke of iron upon thy neck, until he have destroyed thee"

So I guess all I'm saying is that I should learn to be more thankful in my circumstances as this is God's will for my Life [1 Thessalonians 5:18 "In everything, give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you"]

Gracias a Dios por esta palabras- Thank you God for this word

Sunday, 11 November 2012

LOOKING TO GOD IN QUIETNESS AND TRUST

Isaiah 30:15
"For thus saith the Lord God, the Holy one of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength and ye would not"


So as you all know, I'm fond of posting videos that inspire me so today, here's a song by Jenn Johnson from Bethel Church entitled "God I look to you".

Sometimes in life, we become so overwhelmed with troubles that we ordinarily do not know how to deal with . I have come to realise of late  that most at times, these troubles come in batches and never one at a time. But when faced with them, God reminds us to trust in Him through the storm. The main verse above says that "in quietness and confidence shall be your strength" In other versions of the bible, confidence is replaced with trust, thus, Trust which is not based on our capabilities in those circumstances but Trust which is in the one who is ALL MIGHTY and reigns over every situation in our lives.

Lamentations 3:37 says "who  is he that saith and it cometh to pass unless the Lord commandeth it"
This is a complete assurance which God has given to His Children making us aware that though our situations may seem overwhelming and completely unsolvable, God is still in control and will never allow anything to take place without His permission. Therefore when faced with troubles and situations where we wonder how things are going to be, let's not forget to trust in God and sing the song "Halleluyah Jesus reigns" and continue to tell God that we look to Him because He is where our help comes from. HALLELUYAH! HALLELUYAH! HALLELUYAH! God is here with us and is always listening! He is our very present help in time of need. Thank you Jesus!

Saturday, 10 November 2012

Liebster award!

Here's another award I should be thanking Ola for; The Liebster award. It's for upcoming bloggers with less than 200 followers and since I've got under 200 followers it's perfect. Thank you Ola. It's always exciting when my blog gets recognised lol!


So here are the Rules for MY Liebster! (Bare proud of it lol)
1. When you receive the award thank the person that gave you and post the link to his/her blog in your post.
2. Then you (receiver of the award) post eleven things about yourself
3. Answer the eleven things that tagger has set for you
4. Choose eleven inspiring bloggers with under 200 followers and link their pages in your post. Then create eleven questions for them to answer
5. Go to their pages and tell them
6. No tag backs!

11 THINGS ABOUT ME
1. I enjoy having a diverse group of people in my friendship circle
2. I love everything Spanish
3. I have natural afro hair
4. My sister owns texttexttiles
5. I enjoy singing (you won't get me to shut up lol)
6. I also do art
7. I am fascinated by gentleness
8. I enjoy making entirely new dishes from what I already have
9. The Bible is the One
10. I love my family
11. God is with me!!!


Blogs I've nominated
Telltheworld
texttexttiles
Diary of a Brownskin Girl

OLA'S QUESTIONS

1. Why did you start your blog and what year and what has changed since you started?
I was inspired by natural hair journeys and other people's blogs so I thought why not start one!

2. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Married, a good, job, well travelled.

3. What would you consider as your ultimate get away and where to?
Travelling the world to everywhere I haven't been to basically

4. Describe yourself in three words?
Lovable, friendly, Great person in a small body lol

5.What colour do you not like?
I like every colour, it depends on the combination

6. What would be your dream job?
I have no idea at the minute

7. What animal would you choose to keep as a pet (even though you might dislike pets)?
A dog

8. Whats one thing you wish you could change about the world?
People who use religion as an excuse to harm others

9. What is your favourite style your into for the fall?
Purple lips and anything oxblood 

10. Who is the person you're most likely to call if you were stuck in the desert... :D(no network tho)ha?
My sister (Not sure how I'd get in touch though without the network lol)

11. Anything you have in the works we should know about?
Not that I'm aware of :)

MY QUESTIONS
1. Which 3 things inspire you in life?
2. Where do you see yourself by the end of the year?
3. If you did not have to worry about money, what would you do with your time? (Totally stolen from TOMS book lol)
4. What 3 things would you like to change by the end of the year?
5. Name 3 desirable qualities in a partner
6. What 1 thing would you do differently if you had a second shot at it?
7. Describe your year in 3 words
8. Name 3 goals you'd like to achieve in the coming year
9. Who is currently your favourite blogger and why (in 1 sentence)?
10. Name 1 money management tip that works for you
11.Name I thing you've been afraid to do and would like to give a shot

Ok so I nominated fewer than 11 bloggers and my questions are a tad bit personal but who's checking. I hope you enjoy this post/ tag/ award nomination.
Have a great day darlings!!!!
Hasta luego!!!

The Versatile Blogger!

Some days ago, I checked the comment section on my post about my Curly Afro Updo and here was Naturelle Me letting me know that she had nominated me for the versatile blogger award... I was so excited that I texted my sister in Birmingham just to let her know lol. The girl didn't even reply.. Apparently she doesn't share in my joy lol jokes. Anyway, so I'd like to personally say "thank you" to Naturelle Me and get a few of the requirements of the nominations done.

THE RULES

1. Thank the Blogger who nominated you2.) Share (7) Random Facts about yourself 3.) Nominate (15) Fellow Bloggers that you have recently discovered or follow regularly.4.) Inform each Nominated Blogger of their nomination by posting a comment on their blogs5.) Add the Versatile Blogger Award to your post



So the next step is to say 7 facts about myself
1. I like to laugh a lot
2. I enjoy making up jokes in my head and sharing with others just so I can laugh (refer to no.1)
3. I'm a recent graduate with a biomedical science degree
4. I love meeting entirely new people from different backgrounds just so I can learn something new
5. I'm currently studying Spanish and learning to play the keyboard
6. I'm a Christian
7. I would love to travel around the world some day

Now to the nominees
Texttexttiles
DatFunkyFro
i.k.i.n.t.o.o.
mymodestmouth
honeydame1
Diary of a Brownskin Girl
Berry Haute
RenewedMindset
mystyledexpressions
ola
follyhoney
onyxsta

Ok so I'm supposed to nominate 15 and I only came up with 12 but that should do.
I hope you are having a good day so far.!
Adios senoritas!!!


Saturday, 3 November 2012

NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION UPDATE

So today is Sunday the 4th of November, a few more weeks to the end of the year, then 2013 begins. At the start of this year, I decided to make resolutions like everyone else because I felt like a new beginning had just arrived like I do at the start of every year lol. Anyway, I made a few resolutions and I thought I'd update you guys on my progress even though I would have been better off updating you monthly just so we could check each other's progress. Either way, I'm here now, so I'll get on with it.

Here are the original resolutions I made and the progress I made with them. 

1. Save money- £500- Saved £800 and spent it all so I'm back to square 1 lol

2. Learn Spanish- Purchased a Spanish book and have been studying nearly everyday

3. Work harder- Graduated from university so I guess I tried

4. Get a Job- Got one in June, starting a new one on December 3rd

5. Get a phone- Have a Sony ericsson xperia arc now so not bad

6. Sleep early= 12:00pm- I was ok for the first few weeks, then everything fell apart lol

7. Manage my time properly- Got a Diary which has been very useful so far


Commentary
It seems that so far, my money saving skills have been good but keeping what I've saved isn't my forte yet.
My job attainment skill is gradually falling into place but a little more work would do me some good.
As for sleeping early, only God knows lol... I need to sort myself out- a bit of strong will might do me some good at this point
Time management skill still  needs a bit more work but so far so good.

It appears these might not be the most inspiring new year's resolutions ever. Either way it was something to put on my to-do list and tick off and so far, it's been alright.

What is ONE of your new years resolutions and how have you been coping with it?

Thursday, 1 November 2012

CURLY AFRO UPDO 2012

June 2012 was 5 years since I last relaxed my hair (i.e. June 2007). I rarely ever put up pictures of my natural hair so I thought "why not do it today since its been quite a while". Here are a few pictures of me 2 weeks ago after church. Take it as a "make-up and hair of the day".
Hope you Enjoy,





Frohawk- Done with bobby pins after twist out with castor oil and water
Nail polish- "H&M, Barry M
Earrings- asos £1
Jumper- Primark £5
Scarf- My sister's wardrobe
Blush- Cargo
Lipstick- Rimmel

Sunday, 28 October 2012

Incredible Braid artistry- Braided Bun and Swirls!!!

So I've noticed a few followers that just joined my blog. I thought I'd let you know that I recognise your support and welcome you to this journey of randomness with me.

Today, its all about Peakmill ; a "Dench"- (aka awesome) youtuber when it comes to style. She just uploaded a video of a hair style which she thought of and decided to bring to life. I always assumed that these styles were "full" braids but not anymore. It's very creative and so I thought I'd share with you in case you're contemplating on a style for autumn, Enjoy!

Hasta luego ladies!

Thursday, 25 October 2012

THE LESSON IN WAITING

So I finished university in May this year. I have been trying to find a job ever since I can remember and for some reason, it seems not to be working out as planned. Sometimes I get frustrated after I've stayed at home for a while because I feel like I'm wasting my time doing nothing at home. Mind you, I worked for 3 weeks after university as a door-to-door charity fundraiser. I was excited at the start because I had gotten a job but then it all began to change when at each door, a stranger would either be nice and not sign up to my charity or someone would be so rude I wondered how people could act like that. One time, I went to a man's door and as soon as I knocked, he came out and gave me the most unpleasant unwelcome I have ever recieved in my life.
Hebrews 13: 2
"Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers for some who have done this have entertained angels without realising it" 

Not that I'm claiming to be an angel or anything lol but anyway, My experience made me moan about the job all the time and eventually I was fired because I could not hit the target number of donors required by each employee within the 3-week period.

With that being said,  I was somewhat glad I got fired and regardless of everything, I am extremely glad I went through this experience because it built my confidence in approaching strangers and these days when I'm afraid to do something, my inner voice just says "act like it was a door-to-door fundraising" because in that job, regardless of whether I was afraid, I still had to approach the strangers door.

Anyway to cut a long story short, I have found myself on many occassions, "almost" securing a job and never quite getting it. I have moaned about it and then been thankful to God and then moaned about it all over again but then one thing I keep forgetting in my process of complaining is the many times God has worked the odd things out for my good. And so, whenever I remember these circumstances, I begin to think, maybe God is actually looking through the jobs to find me the perfect one. I read a few days in Golden thoughts' page on what God does when we ask for something; that He takes the opportunity to offer us the best out of the rest. And so bearing this in mind, I have decided to practice patience and learn any other lesson I'm required to learn whiles I'm at home

Besides, I might end up complaining when I get to work full time and there's no time to just chill lol.

Verse of the day- Isaiah 40: 31
"But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary, and they shall walk and not faint"

Thank you Jesus, As I wait on you, I will not be wearied because I know that through it all, you'll work everything out for my good.


Espanoles frase del dia
Dios esta obrando cosas para mi bien- God is working things out for my good. 
Gracias dios!- Thank you God

Adios a todos!! - Bye everyone
Hablaremos mas tarde- talk to you later

Overshadow me- Christ in me!

I listened to this song a long time ago. Lately, I had been trying to find it on youtube but for some reason I couldn't and then the "miracle" happened today. I finally found it.. YAAY!
It talks about God overshadowing us in the shelter of His wings and the Holy spirit covering us. The second part talks about the verse, Christ in me, It's no Longer I that lives, But Christ in me. It's so beautiful and calming to listen to. I thought I'd share it with you.

Adios mis amigos y gracias- Bye my friends and thank you

Monday, 15 October 2012

THE ONE!

So ever since I can remember, I've always thought that I have to be patient because God has "One" person for me and even though I am definitely not sure when, where or how I will meet that person, I have found myself in countless situations calculating the odds of someone being "the one". I think my expectations from my partner have grown so high that when I see the good side of someone, I immediately put him on a high pedestal and begin to think that maybe he's "the one" and we might end up being together and even sometimes end up having relationships with the person in my head lol... craaaaaaaazzzzzzzzzzzzzzyyyyyyy!. I know right?  Then when I find myself thinking of the person and considering how it will be like when we have to date and other stuff, I end up reconsidering the idea.

Anyway, the long and short of the story is that I came across a video once again about "How do you know someone is the one"

Jefferson Bethke explains it a little more here.
He clarifies that there is no such thing as "The One" because we end up putting too much pressure on the other person to be perfect when we should be putting Christ first and learning to show love, grace, mercy and forgiveness to the other person plus holding people in high standards might cause us to miss the good, godly people surrounding us.

In a nutshell, WE ARE FREE TO CHOOSE WHO WE WANT and it is important to be transparent in the process and trust God to enable us to make the right choice.
Ps: We still need to exercise patience because God always knows Best!

Toms!!!

So I always wanted Toms because they look comfortable, cool and everyone has one. But then I just came across the story behind the brand as written by Jessica French  which is a beautiful story about the "one for one" donation they make to children all over the world with each Toms purchased.

HERE's Jessica's version

"Toms came around when creator Blake Mycoskie was travelling in Argentina with his friends, whilst there he had discovered that children he had become friends with in the local villages had no shoes to protect their feet. Thats when he had the idea of creating Toms Shoes to gift to the children. That was in 2006 and since then, and until this day when every pair of shoes are sold, one pair gets donated to children all around the world."
 Chocolate Herringbone Women's ClassicsBurgundy Houndstooth Women's ClassicsSilver Houndstooth Women's ClassicsTeal Pop Herringbone Women's Classics
aren't they beauties?- ¿no son bellezas?


I think it is an amazing story and makes me like the brand more. Who knows, I might purchase one when I get a job soon so if anyone around here is looking for a recent graduate to work for them around here, hint hint, I'm the perfect person lol. Just thought I'd throw it out there...Toodles!
 
Hasta luego mis amores!- see you later my loves
Hablar con usted pronto- speak to you soon

Sunday, 7 October 2012

STYLE-SPIRATION




The glasses. Never loses its cool!


Yep! I love me some purple lipstick on dark skin. Very pretty


I'll buy one of these jumpers for my future husband someday!!!



Flawless skin and beautiful purples.



Autumn's here, so you can never go wrong with layering. Beautiful!


Love the bold red with the pure white. Very classy!!


If I were a caucasian guy, I'd cut my hair this way. You can always run your fingers through without being overwhelmed with hair!!! Cool jacket too! My future husband will be wearing this one too lol.

Adios senoritas!!!

HAIR-SPIRATION



I thought I'd put up pictures of different textures of hair that inspire me and I feel are beautiful. No matter how short or long your hair is, the beauty of it is that you can always enjoy it by rocking what you have and always remember that gratitude turns what we have into enough!!! Hasta luego mis amigos! 



Thursday, 4 October 2012

LISTENING!!!

I read a post a few weeks back on "the art of listening". Before that, I had spoken to my cousin and there had been a misunderstanding between us on a decision we were supposed to be making at some point. During the conversation, I realised that I was very keen on making my point clear, being argumentative and making assumptions on what I thought my cousin meant. He pointed out that when I am speaking to someone, I should listen well to what the person is saying before I speak. Something which I found quite insulting at the time and had an "all new" argument with him lol but anyway I'm gonna get straight to the point

After the conversation, I went about my normal duties yet the whole conversation ran through my mind again and I thought to myself "you are sometimes too keen on picking fights and assuming"

But that's not the issue here. The issue is my ability to listen attentively, be slow to speak and quick to hear as the Bible recommends that believers should do.

Because of this I embarked upon the journey to learn the act and art of listening. I read a post titled The art of listening in which an exercise requested that I listen to my favourite music and try to listen to every single word in the song. True to the findings in the post, I ended up drifting away about halfway through the song. I tried again as was requested by the exercise and the second and third times I drifted off again. This made me realise two things about my listening ability.

1. Familiarity (assumptions) prevents me from paying attention
2. I don't really listen to the words when I'm listening to music

So after these two discoveries, I followed up a link on conversations- urges of an untamed mind and I learnt a few things about conversations. About the fact that there are different forms of conversation that we have as humans. Sometimes its in the form of speaking, other times, its watching others speak and at certain times its through our own mental conversations which we have. And most at times these conversations prevent us from truly listening.

For instance, in my conversation with my cousin and even with other people, I've realised that often when the other person is speaking, I am already making up my own story in my head as to what to give as a reply hence preventing me from truly listening to the other person. The post also gave an instance of people who have conversations and never listen but are only waiting for the other person to finish so that they can give their own opinion on the issue (i.e me sometimes).

So I found here a video by Iyanla Vazant  on Listening. It just summarises the simplicity of listening; that the true art of listening is without judgement or expectation but is a process of love which comes from the "right now" moment when you make a connection with the person that you're talking to and finally, it comes from the heart

After realising these things about myself, I have decided to make a deliberate effort to be silent at certain points in the day, for I realise that sometimes silence brings more peace than noise and in so doing I'll learn to practice my listening much better than I have been doing so far.

Mo Farah- keep it moving!

This guy was amazing in the Olympics this year; 2012. I just came across his picture and I figured I'd post it up as a reminder. He's a positive inspiration to all that see a great hurdle ahead and do not overburden themselves with the thought of the hurdle but just take a step of faith, be daring and keep it moving. (I'm talking about the race here).
source: fashionaire256

Keep it moving even if every present door seems to be shut in your face.
Keep it moving even when fear seems to grip you in the throat
Keep it moving even when everyone else seems to be doing the same thing and you are the "odd" one out
Keep it moving even when things seem not to be going as planned
Keep it moving because sometimes the things we never plan come out more amazing than the ones we plan
Keep it moving because there's always something to learn in a new journey
Keep it moving for you never know where it'll take you.

"If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door"

Tuesday, 2 October 2012

Me loves Honey Dame!!!

I just came across this brilliant writer honeydame1 and I figured I'd put up a post about her just to recognise her.. She's our fellow Nigerian located in NYC and her posts are very interesting to read. I'm glad I came across her today..
Feel free to visit her page. You'll enjoy her posts!!!

Saturday, 29 September 2012

Natural hair products I swear by!!!

I figured it's been ages since I spoke about my natural hair. June 2012 was 5 years since the last time I officially relaxed my hair. I started off this blog by mainly talking about my natural hair but with time I seem to have "deviated" .. more like my interests have expanded and so I'm looking forward to more things to talk about in future.
Anyway, I thought I'd share a few of the products which I've been using over my 5yr journey and let you guys know which ones have worked well for me

1. Mango and lime

Boy do I love mango and lime hair products. My favourite is the shea butter lotion. I would recommend this hair product to anyone with natural hair.
The shea butter in this product creates an instant softness to my hair which makes it so very easy to manage.
It only costs £2.99 and I've re-purchased it a few times since I discovered it

2. castor oil

I've used this product for almost a year now and haven't had any negative side effects from it. I enjoy using castor oil although I haven't been much watchful of the extent of hairgrowth I get when I use it. I say this because everyone else seems to say that it makes their hair grow quite thick. Either way I'm still a fan of castor oil so I thought I'd share. It was £2.49.

3. Water
Always works for dry hair which will easily break when combed. I always sprinkle water on my hair before combing through just to make it easier to work with. Definitely a must + its free yay lol!

4. Herbal essences or tresemme shampoo and conditioner
I've been rotating between these products for some time now plus my other shampoos and conditioners from random companies. They are very moisturising and make my hair quite soft whenever I use them. You can see the trend here... "softness" is always a must for natural hair otherwise its never fun to comb through!!

5. Doo Gro Mega thick Growth Oil
Again, I bought this oil because of it's name "mega thick" lol.... I've not really paid attention to the thickness of my hair but I use it as one of the oils for my hair and it hasn't produced any negative side effects on it so far. In fact it smells quite nice, almost like pineapple  and some other products but I don't think it actually contains pineapple though. It is a mixture of different oils like soybean, sweet almond, oat protein , shea butter and some others . All in all I like this hair oil as well and would recommend it


Here's a picture summary of the stuff I use for my hair. I thought I'd share the products with you just for the sake. Hope you enjoyed reading. Feel free to share

Friday, 28 September 2012

The burden of Guilt!!!- Thank God for Jesus


Lately I've been burdened with sin and guilt over the things which I've done yet wish I never did. Most of the time, its to do with what I said, or the way I reacted in a certain situation and often I judge myself based on what I think other people might have thought of me in that instant. I've felt frustrated and upset and heavy hearted at times but sometimes it goes away and it seems like all is ok again but then I find myself once again being bombarded with these thoughts once more. Earlier this week I had to say to the devil speaking in the back of my mind to literally "F- off" (apologies for the language) because he himself wasn't perfect anyway so I don't know why he's talking. I know as a christian, I'm supposed to speak so that my speech brings grace to hearers. In this case it was in my head lol... not to make an excuse or anything but anyway I'll get straight to the point.

I watched this preacher on a Hillsong tv program and he basically talked about the rooster that crowed 3 times for Peter to finally realise that he had denied Jesus and confirm what Jesus had told him earlier.
The preacher compared this rooster's crow to the voice of the enemy that constantly accuses us when we've faltered as christians and time and time again, the rooster constantly crows to remind us of our mistakes which only ties us down and prevents us from fully going for what God has promised us.

In the end, the preacher spoke about the day of pentecost after the resurrection of Christ which meant that the disciples; Peter in this case was filled with the Holy spirit and at this time, when the enemy's voice might have showed up again to bring him down, the Power of the Holy spirit was there to combat every accusation so that Peter was able to go on and achieve the goal which Christ had set i.e. to build His church.

Revelation 12:10 says "And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his christ: FOR THE ACCUSER OF THE BRETHREN IS CAST DOWN, WHICH ACCUSED THEM BEFORE OUR GOD DAY AND NIGHT"

Thank God for this reminder. He knew I'd need it today

vs 11 says "And they overcame them by the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death"

So this is what I am doing now. I declare that I am a child of God. I am no longer a servant of sin. I am a servant of God and I am more than a conquerer through Him that loved me

Romans 7vs 19 For the good that I would, I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do
vs 24 O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?
vs 25 I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh, the law of sin

So when I am burdened with sin I'll remember...

Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh but after the spirit"
vs 2: For the law of the spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death"


My sins have been washed away by the blood of Jesus.  I no longer heed to the voice of the enemy that constantly points at my mistakes and causes me to be burdened because I am free from his accusations .. After all he himself is not perfect! God has saved me and my response today is to fully recieve the true gift of salvation which He has offered me by believing what He has said about me. I was never "perfect" yet He called me and so I will not try to be because now, God calls me His child. I am His righteousness and so I stand no longer ashamed because God forgives my sins and remembers them no more (Hebrews 8:12). I belong to Jesus. Sin no longer has dominion over me for I am not under the law but under GRACE (Romans 6:14). Thank you Jesus!!!

I know that time and time again the enemy will try to burden me with guilt but thank God for the holy spirit for He will bring to remembrance what I have learnt today about freedom in Christ and so I declare that I am an overcomer in Jesus name Amen!!!

Monday, 17 September 2012

Stereotypes & Reality

Buenos dias mis amigos.... Check out Sengova for more of his spoken words, I hope you're blessed by them

Friday, 14 September 2012

I remember- The joys of being a child in Africa

I remember as a child, the many times myself and my siblings would walk about our neighbourhood exploring the different places we could find
I remember when the Muslims used to celebrate "idr-fetir", the festival after their fasting period.
It was always fun because we used to see the many different cattle and how big they were. Some with horns, others without and some so strong, it took more than 5 men to bring them down before they could be slaughtered for the festival
I remember the many different coloured outfits people would wear out just to display the festive spirit.
I remember the foods which were sent over by the Muslim friends which the whole family enjoyed .

I remember Easter, when we used to make palm nut soup and different decorative items with the palm branches
I remember when the church would walk around the neighbourhood singing songs of "hoseana, (Ashanti way of pronouncing hosanna" just to commemorate the entry of Christ into Jerusalem
I remember Christmas  It was a beautiful time to have chicken. Yes Chicken!!! and all the many meals which we could eat just because it was Christmas!
I remember 24th December, the night before the real day of Christmas  when music would be played so loud and Christmas lights would be displayed infront of our family house; many neighbours would walk past and some would stay just to enjoy the festive spirit
I remember when we were bought beautiful dresses and new underwear, socks, shoes and jewellery just to go to church on Sunday to celebrate Christmas
I remember when we used to go to the rubbish dump site to explore the surroundings. It was always a fun opportunity to find objects which we could play with on our return home
I remember when we used to make little soups and stews in empty cans of tomatoes which we could find in our little pretend kitchens
I remember when we used to play "mum, dad and family" with our cousins and sometimes one of us would get upset and decide not to play
I remember when my grand mother would buy us little mortars, pestles and ladles to make our own "fufu" and soup
I remember when she used to go to the farm and return a few days later with bananas, plantain and other food stuff.
I remember the plant she called "see koto" which we used to knock each other on the head with just for the fun of it
I remember when my cousin would intentionally drop his meat into our soup just so he could pick it up and scoop some of thesoup up whilst doing it
I remember when my auntie would leave some of her evening rice till morning and the first person to find it would have the right to eat it with the tasty tomato stew from the previous day
I remember when my aunt used to go on her trips and we had to clean up the house and set it in order before she arrived to avoid gettingtold off
I remember when my teeth used to hurt in the evenings because I had stuck tooth picks in the gaps to get out locked up food.
I remember the times I cried and my older sister would pick me up andgive me a "piggy back" just to calm me down
I remember when my sister, myself and my cousins would sing and drum on anything we could find just to make music
I remember the ants in Ghana which would bite us and leave bumps which itch so much so that we immediately developed hatred for them and wanted to squash them the moment we found the "culprit ant"
I remember the times when we were told scary stories of the Ghosts of people dying in one town and being found in another
I remember the Nigerian movies that used to scare us so much because of the "Juju" which was portrayed in them
I remember when life was so simple, beautiful and fun without costing money
I remember the good old days and now I thank God for bringing me up in Africa to enjoy the simplicity of life in my childhood.

By Trudie aka me

What do you remember as a child?

Tuesday, 28 August 2012

Finding oneself- confidence

1."God has not called us to look down on ourselves"

2."God personally forms and shapes us for a purpose and that purpose is for the Potter's Glory"

I was speaking to my friend today and the topic of "Confidence" popped up. She told me about the fact that she felt confident the previous year but all of a sudden, she seemed to have lost it all.
I remembered the time in high school when we used to talk about this issue and I figured that this hadn't been dealt with properly by both of us even up until now (i.e. about 6years later).

I asked her about this and posed the question "How long is it going to take for you to be confident in yourself? Is it when you are 50 or maybe  80years? This made me realise that the more we dwell on the issue of not being confident, the more we spend our lives not really going for what we want.

Our perception of ourselves is projected out whether we like it or not and this causes others to either respond in a negative or positive way towards us and in turn, our own spirits are either lifted or dampened.



"Clay sculpture...representing me, i'm in a fetal position, small and alone, crying and completely self-focused, feeling rejected, this is what it looks like for me when i've allowed myself to be consumed by all my insecurities, fears, & hurts."


God has not called us to look down on ourselves; His creation.

He said to Joshua, "Be strong and courageous" when He chose him to lead the people of Israel after the death of Moses, their leader. God repeated this several times and we should be aware that each time a particular verse is repeated, it suggests its importance and thus should be taken note of.

Fear is the consequence of a lie. The same applies to having a low self esteem. We have been told that we are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God (Psalm 139:14) so listening to any other voice contrary to this makes us wonder, whose voice are we listening to? Are we paying attention to the lie we have told ourselves constantly or the truth that God has clearly spoken about our identities.

"My sheep hear my voice and I know them and they follow me" (John 10:27). Do you know the voice of the one who has spoken truthfully about you, and do you know what He has said?

Let us find our identities in God and always remember that He has called us His own and has made us in His image and likeness regardless of our "flaws" (Genesis 1:27).

It is important that when we find ourselves losing confidence, we remember that we have been fearfully and wonderfully made. Even if it doesn't seem real, meditate upon it until it becomes a part of you. Let it be like a silent prayer in your head at all times and remember you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. (Philipians 4:13)

Let us not try to find ourselves in achievements, aquisitions (i.e. material things), relationships, appearance or any other thing that might temporarily fill that Gap. Only God can fill it. Find the truth in His word and walk in that Truth daily.


"This is my second clay sculpture...representing me, i'm part of a friendly clay coffee mug that is meant for daily use to be filled up and poured out in relationship, i've got my arms outstretched looking outward ready to dive deep, it's no longer all about me and i'm standing with courage knowing & trusting that the Potter is the one who will take the mug in his hands to use as He desires. Here Am I Lord, Send Me. Have Your Way."

"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path" (Psalm 119:105)

What issue of confidence have you had and how have you dealt with it? Care to share!

Monday, 27 August 2012

7 THINGS I'M THANKFUL FOR

"Focusing on gratitude unleashes the love that lives within"- Gabrielle Bernstein


Lately, I've figured that I have mainly focused on negative things which I've felt have happened to me and to be honest it has become an energy drainer. So I came across MISSLARA's blog update on "11 things I'm thankful for" and I thought "why not do the same?"...I wanted to put up 10 things I'm thankful for but 7 just popped up in my head so I figured I'd put them on here and build up on it in my next posts. Let's see how watchful I'll be in the next few days to notice the good things going on as well and truly appreciate them.

Colossians 3:15 "And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in onebody; and be ye thankful"

1. Family (Dad, mum, siblings, cousins etc)

2. Friends

3. Graduating from university- (The opportunity to go to university and graduate; I learnt quite a lot whilest I was there and would definitely recommend it to anyone)

4. Life

5. Experiences-  The good and the bad- They've made me better

6. Opportunities- They give me a chance to explore (realise) my potentials and develop

7. Laughter- Brings instant joy and happiness

So what are you guys thankful for? Care to share!!!

Thursday, 23 August 2012

MY QUIET TIME WITH GOD

So I just commented on FunTo's post on "Read the bible...Part of a check-list? and I figured I'd take my own advice so I thought I'd share with you guys...


"I admit sometimes my quiet time becomes a "to do" list in my head which I have to tick and I feel guilty when its not done so I've found myself sometimes doing it just for the sake of it. But I realise that the moment I take my time, relax and just enjoy reading and praying, it becomes more of a genuine way to spend time with God. So I guess all I'm saying is, just make time for God in your relationship. It might take some time to set up a specific time but God is always there and we just have to enjoy being in His presence and not make it seem a duty.. (wow I think I'll take my own advice lol)"

So yh, do you guys ever feel that way sometimes and how have you gone about dealing with it?

Wednesday, 22 August 2012

How To Walk In High Heels

"One of the keys to walking in heels is a good, strong, solid posture"


Ok so I came across misssunshinesparkle's post on "How to walk in high heels" and Ithought I'd share. A few weeks back, I was speaking to my sister about the fact that I thought high heels were beautiful yet didn't prefer them. And this is all because of the fact that they usually are uncomfortable to wear, thus if you are not an expert at them.

Sometimes I see the most beautiful shoes in shops but then I find myself not even bothering to try them on because of the fact that I've experienced pain with this "species" of shoes several times and I think at some point I just got fed up with feeling the "pain" so I thought I'd give them up.

So here's the deal, she writes about this novel "walking in high heels" and as the name suggests, it's about "heels" + other girly stuff like wearing perfumes....so I thought maybe I'll buy myself one and see a few things I could learn from it. Besides, girly books/ movies/ music or anything girly in fact is always fun so why not....just saying :-)


Would love to know your thoughts on shoes... Are you a "heel" or a "flat" person

Tuesday, 21 August 2012

Your Identity Shapes Me Too

So I was just watching this video and it made me think of the effect that the people surrounding us (i.e. parents, friends, acquintances e.t.c) have on us. So I thought I'd share it.

Be careful of the people you surround yourself with & listen to. They all nurture a behaviour in you.
Would you like the positive ones to grow or the negative? It's definitely your choice!!!!!!

Monday, 20 August 2012

The Proposal- The Last supper

THE CONSEQUENCE OF A LIE

"Avoid fear for it is the consequence of every lie"

God Is Not An elephant

A few weeks back I wrote about forgiveness in marriage. I just found myself a second ago contemplating the idea of not forgiving someone because this particular person doesn't seem to get the idea that what they are doing is basically offensive and so I've found myself giving them so many excuses as to why they offend me... Just now I got fed up and was thinking of not letting go but then I came across this video which I had watched a while back and it reminded me of the truth behind forgiveness. So I figured I'd share it. stay blessed!!

"Don't be like  achained beautiful dogm do yourself a favour and forgive".... Pastor Funmi Alawale

Tuesday, 31 July 2012

Tagged

I was tagged a while ago by koolfashion but for some reason I never got around to doing it so I thought I'd do it now. So here goes.
 
Favourite food
Pasta and vegetables
Ghanaian- Banku and okra or Fufu and light soup
Nigerian- Pounded yam and Efo 

3 words to describe yourself
Kind, Bubbly, happy
 
Memorable moment in your life
First time meeting dad, Kea's wedding
 
3 things you dislike in life
Arrogance, rudeness, bullies
 
3 things you love in life
Humble people, happy people + laughter, meeting new people
 
favourite animal
cute dogs
 
favourite tv show
The Big bang theory
 
3 goals in life
Learn spanish + other languages
Travel to many different places 
Have a good family
 
1 feature you love about yourself
My body
 
favourite verse of the bible
Psalm 91:1- He that dwells in the secret place of the most high shall abide in the shadow of the Almighty

Everyone's tagged so feel free to do it.